It is thought by people who have never made funeral arrangements that the funeral home makes the decisions of where your loved one is laid to rest.......
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When a family comes in to make funeral arrangements, one of the most important questions is, "Where will you be laying your loved one to rest?" This question is important because it gives the director a clue of which direction to steer the family with all the other arrangements. What I mean by this is you will know what side of town, if in a big city, you should be making the other arrangements on, such as church for service and repast hall. Answering this question also allows the funeral director to try to keep the family on budget. Every cemetery has a different price that should be called and quoted to the family while making arrangements.
Most families have experienced the loss of a loved one before now and have used a cemetery that was agreed upon by family or have had other members buried there. Others choose the cemetery by location and what is closer to the city limits or their homes. Some even choose cemeteries based on there frequency in visiting the grave and the upkeep of the grounds. Others choose a resting place for their loved one based solely upon price.
Everything should be in the same area (church, cemetery and family's home). This will keep the family from going from one side of town to the next and keep the day from dragging on and on. This also gives consideration to family members who have traveled from other states to have a smaller unfamiliar circle to travel in. The director makes suggestions of the cemetery to use, a lot of times, based on the amount of time it takes to get to the cemetery from the place of service. It is only a suggestion and should be taken as just that. So, to answer the question, it is ultimately the family’s choice of what cemetery they would like to use, however it is the job of the funeral director to make this, almost impossible time to deal with, the easiest transition possible. That is the way it is done in the "Real World".
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When a family comes in to make funeral arrangements, one of the most important questions is, "Where will you be laying your loved one to rest?" This question is important because it gives the director a clue of which direction to steer the family with all the other arrangements. What I mean by this is you will know what side of town, if in a big city, you should be making the other arrangements on, such as church for service and repast hall. Answering this question also allows the funeral director to try to keep the family on budget. Every cemetery has a different price that should be called and quoted to the family while making arrangements.
Most families have experienced the loss of a loved one before now and have used a cemetery that was agreed upon by family or have had other members buried there. Others choose the cemetery by location and what is closer to the city limits or their homes. Some even choose cemeteries based on there frequency in visiting the grave and the upkeep of the grounds. Others choose a resting place for their loved one based solely upon price.
Everything should be in the same area (church, cemetery and family's home). This will keep the family from going from one side of town to the next and keep the day from dragging on and on. This also gives consideration to family members who have traveled from other states to have a smaller unfamiliar circle to travel in. The director makes suggestions of the cemetery to use, a lot of times, based on the amount of time it takes to get to the cemetery from the place of service. It is only a suggestion and should be taken as just that. So, to answer the question, it is ultimately the family’s choice of what cemetery they would like to use, however it is the job of the funeral director to make this, almost impossible time to deal with, the easiest transition possible. That is the way it is done in the "Real World".